You may or may not have known that yesterday was the GCSE results day. Now, I’m a little late to the party by posting this but I was exhausted yesterday. The sheer amount of anxiety that was building up along with all 500,000 other candidates yesterday morning was insane. But all the hard work, effort and anxiety was worth it. I was able to get some amazing grades and I’m super proud of each and every one. I really hope that you all got the grades you deserved as well too.
Anyway, what I’m really here to talk about is the build up you get before collecting some all important results. These could be some exam results or medical results or even anything in-between. You will never be able to collect these all-important results without feeling a little bit of anxiety even if you don’t suffer with it. I mean, it’s good for us to worry but a lot of the time, the chunk of anxiety we suffer with before collecting our results can often take over for a short while before and after we have them. There is not much we are able to do to stop this or even slow it down. Most of the time we just have to ride it out. it is both upsetting and annoying to know that there is little that we can do about it.
Personally, I suffer from anxiety and when I am aware of a nerve-racking event that is coming up, it gets considerably worse. I am able to cope with this by attempting to think positively about what is going on. For example, before results day, I was able to remind myself that I had tried my absolute hardest in the exams and I knew it was going to pay off. Right until the very end, at this point, I had kind of accepted that I was going to be anxious and nervous until I had the all-important envelope in my hands but once I had, boi, I felt good.
There really is no other reason for the cause of anxiety in these situations than fear. But, the only thing to fear is fear itself. What I’m trying to say is that when we are in a situation that creates nervousness and anxiety, we are actually fearful of the outcome. You might not think about it in this way but, if you think back to the last situation that made you nervous, you might be able to clock the fact that you were actually scared of what the outcome might be. I was scared that I wouldn’t get the results I needed and was therefore fearful that I wouldn’t get into the sixth form that I wanted to go to. Thankfully, this wasn’t the case. But, how do we react when this isn’t the case?
More often than not, we can become quite angry and disappointed with ourselves when things don’t turn out the way we anticipated them to. This can quite easily make us feel like all the anxiety builds up and the effort that was put in wasn’t worth it. This can make us feel awful but this is never the right way to feel. There are always options. You can do it.
Yugen – An emotional response about the world too deep for words.