Unfortunately, there will be times in life where you need to take a step back and take some time away. Sometimes it’s all just too much meaning we struggle with coping with everything that’s going on all at once. This explains why we often feel like we need to take some time away and be ourselves for a little while. No one to bother us, just me, myself and I. It can really help to be alone but this might not always be the case. Sometimes surrounding yourself with loved ones causes you to realise how important they are and makes you feel like you aren’t alone. However, if you feel like being on your own is right for you then you deserve to be treated with respect in the way you wish to be.
Recently, I needed some time away from everything that was going on in my head but someone really close to me in my life at the time wouldn’t let me be alone as they didn’t wish to watch me suffer through what I was going through on my own. They wanted to help. At that moment in time, I really wanted to be left alone. Don’t get me wrong, it was amazing to know that someone cared about me so much that they wanted to be with me every step of the way but I felt that the best thing for me was to be in my own place. Unfortunately, I quickly discovered that I was wrong and all I wanted and needed was that one person in my life that I could be around and realise that I was alone. I felt like there was nothing I could do, I didn’t want to tell that person because I felt as if they would have been mad or turned around and said “I told you so” so, I didn’t tell them. To this day I want to but I don’t wish to upset the apple cart as you would say.
More recently, someone else in my life felt like they needed time away from everything that was going on. Reluctantly, I respected their decision and I was selfless towards the situation and I’m very glad that I was. In life, it’s so important to bite the bullet and respect what someone else wants because it could do them the world of good. Even if you don’t think that it’s the right thing for them, you have to let them think for themselves and you must respect that!
It’s hard to think that when you’re letting someone have some time to themselves, you feel like you’re letting them go but this isn’t always the case. Just because someone wishes to be alone doesn’t mean you have to leave them to it as if they were the Ebola virus, it just means that you have to let them have some space and come to terms with what’s going on in their life. You can always check up on that person, in fact, I would encourage it because, if that person feels the same way I do, they might have realised that they want people around them but are too worried about letting you know. The last thing I want is for any of the people in my life to be feeling this way.
I always tell people that: sometimes in life, we have to be selfish to save our own lives. I live by this quote because I fell that it’s so important to think about ourselves as well as someone else. It might feel like we are being a bit of a dick but our mental health is just as important as our best friend’s or our partner’s. We just need to be able to see that.
So, if at one point you feel like things are just becoming too much for you, take that all important step back and remember that you have people in your life who love and support you and will be there when you are ready. Talk to someone about how you’re feeling too. A problem shared is a problem halved.
You’ve got this.
Yugen – An emotional response about the universe which is too deep to put into words.