So, Today I want you to think about the last time you felt threatened or scared. This might have been because of something you did or because of something someone else did or just something that genuinely freaked you out. Whatever it is, give yourself five minutes to think back to that moment and ask yourself a few questions:
- What was actually happening? – Looking back at the event might not seem like the best idea in the world but it can sometimes help you to forget about it. When you re-live that moment you often get the chance to see the bigger picture.
- Why do you think this occurred? I don’t like using the term “blame” This is because you can go back to the person who made the thing that scared you until you find someone to blame. However, It’s natural for us to think that someone should be responsible for the event.
- How can you have changed what happened at that moment or after to make it feel better? Is it possible that you could have apologised? Or changed something or perhaps just have walked away? There is always something someone can do to make something better for themselves or both parties.
Being in a scary situation isn’t good for the mind because it temporarily messes with the way that we think. We begin to be irrational about things and can sometimes think that the things that we have always been taught that are wrong are actually right. This is when things can begin to get a bit out of control. When we become scared our body prepares for a flight or fight response. You can read more about this in my post about nervousness.
The Amygdala is a part of the brain which is almond shaped. It deals with all the emotions that we encounter. When we see someone who looks angry or to be feared, we prepare ourselves to be scared. This is a good example of how it works because we are able to picture what our response would be since it’s the one which has the clearest change to our personality. The stimulus (in this case the scary person) would trigger a response in the Amygdala which causes us to feel frightened.
Remember, fear is temporary an there is always a way to get around it and feel stable or happy again. There is always a way to get through the way we are feeling at the moment, we just need to find it.
Yugen – An emotional response about the world too deep for words.