Over the years, my social circle has grown and shrunk as a result of my actions and my friends’ actions. This means that I have had a lack of friends or people I can trust for long periods of time. Ultimately, this left me feeling alone during a time where I feel like I needed people around me more than ever. During this period, I would have classed myself to be lonely. I overcame this loneliness by using the tips I posted on the “suffering from loneliness” blog post. On this post, there are a few ideas to show you how easy it actually is to overcome negative thoughts and make yourself feel loved and wanted again.
Expanding your social circle
Having friends is key to having a positive social life. If you want an encouraging group of friends then you may need to grow your circle. By doing this, you will meet loads of fantastic people but not all of these people will be your friends. You will need to pick a few good ones and stick to having them as the ones who you are more emotionally attached to. This means that you will be able to have a large group of friends you can have for social gatherings and a group of smaller friends you can have for your deep and emotional thoughts; these friends are powerful enough to help you through anything.
Ideas to expand your social circle.
- Connect with a connector – This is a great way to meet new people. You can meet loads of people all at once. It gives you the chance to choose the friends you want to have for life and the ones you want to hang out with from time to time. Meeting lots of people at once is great for your social skills as well because when you’re at a party, you interact a lot and you try loads of new things.
- Go to more social gatherings – This doesn’t have to be a party as such. If you’re in year 11, going to NCS is a fantastic way to meet loads of genuine new people. It can also put you in a really good position to start college or sixth form. The people you meet will be a mixture of team leaders and NCSers. All of these people are so nice and genuine. You’ll love it. If you do happen to go to one social gathering, be sure to keep going to them. This will really increase your confidence.
- Know the type of people you aspire to meet – Not knowing who you want to meet will be a massive risk as you won’t know who you are meeting. This could jeopardise your social circle because it could mean you make the wrong friends. Knowing the people you want to meet means that you find loads of common interests with new people.
Why is your social circle so important?
It’s really important to have a social circle. It doesn’t have to be massive but it can be as big or small as you wish. The friends you make can be really helpful for you to channel your emotions and be the person you have always wanted to be. Real friends that are a part of your circle will be able to help you through the good and the bad. They will be there for you when no one else can be. They are the people you can go to when you aren’t feeling the way you should be.
Your friends aren’t just people. They’re your family. They’re the people you can trust. You will fight, you will have bad times but that’s what families do. Stick with them because they’ll always be worth it.
Yugen – An emotional response about the world too deep for words.