Sometimes we get that feeling where we have plans but we feel so low that we just want to cancel or say no when someone tries to make plans. Honestly, I’m here to tell you to stop canceling plans and saying no to things!
I don’t know about you guys but quite often when I start convincing myself to cancel on plans I begin to get that nudging feeling in the back of my head that is FOMO. The fear of missing out. FOMO is the worst method of kicking yourself when you’re down; you’ll see your friends posting things on social media and begin to feel worse if you canceled due to feeling low in the first place.
Seeing people really helps
If you’re feeling down, you might find that one of the best methods of picking yourself back up again is by surrounding yourself with people who make you happy. If you’re feeling low and a friend offers to take you out for lunch, don’t deny seeing them. If you don’t feel like going out try inviting them to bring snacks to your house, or chilling out with a movie. Sometimes spending a bit of time with someone who knows you and how to cheer you up can make you feel a lot better about the situation you’re in.
Anxiety kicking in
When it comes to going somewhere new or with new people, anxiety can be the biggest and strongest barricade and will make you want to abort mission on the plans that you have. I know this is a cliche thing to say but try to not let anxiety hold you back. Take a deep breath in and tackle the situation at your own pace, you don’t have to do anything you don’t want to but you shouldn’t let panic drive you away from what could be a lot of fun. Even if you have to attach yourself to possibly the only person in that scenario that you know, we don’t want that #FOMO coming back to haunt us.
My experiences with finally saying yes
I used to say no to almost everything. When I was feeling low I would refuse to see my friends or go out and I would just mope around in my bedroom. But recently I had a brainwave. If I start saying yes to things I can give myself a whole list of new opportunities and experiences that I can convert to social skills. But I can also allow myself to genuinely enjoy myself.
Recently I’ve been unwell physically which has been putting me down mentally, so yesterday I very nearly canceled on a concert which I have been counting down the days for. I was sat at home considering it and the FOMO started kicking in. Luckily for me combined with the brainwave I have a group of people in my life who do not let me say no or cancel plans. So after a dosage of medicine and a train to London, I found myself at this gig, letting myself go with the music, closing my eyes and jumping the night away. And honestly I am so grateful that I went because if I didn’t I would have missed the opportunity to meet one of my favorite bands and talk to some incredible people.
Saying no to plans often leads to the heartbreak of what you missed. Stop missing out; go to that party where you only know one person, meet up with that friend you haven’t seen in weeks, go on that date. You might find it makes you feel a million times better.