So, you’ve been feeling down and you want to know how to pick yourself back up. The truth is… There is no answer to how to deal with negative thoughts or emotions. This is something that you have to deal with on your own. You have to be able to tell yourself that enough is enough and be able to know when and how you can stop it. The when part is something that you have to decide but the how part is something you can be supported on.
Dealing with it
You have to be able to pinpoint exactly what it is that is bothering you. Once you have done this, you are on the road to being able to find happiness again. If your emotions are being caused by someone else then you must be able to figure out a way to block them out of your life and move on. In doing this, you will be able to show yourself that you have the ability to be your own person and find happiness in yourself and spending your time doing things that you enjoy doing. There is nothing worse than having toxic relationships around you which control your life. You will only end up getting yourself stuck in a loophole where you have no choice but to believe that you are the cause of the whole thing – this is often not true.
Doing it alone
So, how do you get through this alone? it’s difficult being alone because you will always struggle to be yourself, to begin with, but once you have decided that enough is enough, you will feel a lot better. Don’t forget that it is often easier to fall back into the trap of thinking that it was your fault than it is to escape the things that are causing you to feel this way. Just remember that there will always be more pros than cons of getting your head back above water because you will finally be able to breathe independently.
Think of it literally, If you’re underwater too long, you will eventually need to take a breath. If you don’t go above water, you will drown. If you don’t escape what it is that is bothering you, you will drown in it.
What I did
When I was in this situation, I spent too long moping around and not enough time getting out there. By the time I had finished moping (11 months), my group of friends didn’t want me. I had been too distant for too long and I was a different person and so were they. They gave up on me because they thought I would end up being a massive buzzkill. Obviously, this really hurt but it didn’t bother me because I had bigger things to deal with.
I decided to be more independent because if no one wanted me, at least I could tell myself that I did. I was ready to start being athletic and happy. I began with running and discovered that it is a massive stress relief. Once I had been running a lot, I took up gym classes and began becoming happier with my appearance. This meant that I was so ready to join in with others.
After an insanely lonely 18 months, I finally had a stable group of friends. Prior to all of this, I had been dealing with severe anxiety and signs of depression, this had caused me to isolate myself to the point where I would sit in my room and type about it all day long. I was so fed up with the world that I wanted no human interaction and I learnt that any of any kind would really anger me.
It wasn’t the prettiest 18 months of my life but I can say that I learnt a lot. My whole blog is built on the worst time of my life and everything I went through in that time and how I dealt with it all. I want to take you on the journey with me to make sure that no one goes through anything like it.
Yugen – An awareness of the universe which triggers an emotional thought too deep for words.